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Reflective of my wanderings for the past several years, I, apparently, have a two year publishing cycle!! This cycle is about to change. Great news, today! I am announcing the opening of “Shepherd’s Care” (SC). The focus of SC is to provide Pastoral Counseling and / or professional Chaplaincy services to all who ask. The links to SC will be primarily on Facebook and then here, on The Friend of Pooh.

A Pastoral Counselor is an individual that has been trained in basic counseling techniques who stays within an overarching framework consistent with their faith. I am an evangelical Christian, so, my framework would be the Holy Bible.

A professional Chaplain has usually been through 4 units of CPE (Clinical Pastoral Education), approximately 1600 hours of training and been certified by a nationally recognized accreditation group. In my case, I am certified by the College of Pastoral Supervision and Psychotherapy and the Spiritual Care Association. I am trained to use my belief system to inform me as how to help a client resolve their conflicts, using their own belief system. As a professional Chaplain, it is not my place to force my beliefs onto a client.

A Pastoral Counselor will use tools to help guide an individual to resolve life conflicts they are experiencing through 6-8 counseling sessions (a technique known as Brief Therapy). A professional Chaplain will help an individual to use tools they do not necessarily realize they have, to find their solutions to their issues.

Check out the links to see my Facebook page, Sermons (yes, I need to update it!) and Koinonia Health website. I hope we can get together for whatever your needs are or you will refer this site to others that may be in need of someone trained to listen effectively. If you follow this site, you will receive notification of new posts (yes, significantly more frequently than every two years!) and asked to chime in on any topic you desire to speak too.

Continuing the concept that we all, daily, exercise faith, our daily lives become our practice of religion. Religion, now, takes on a much larger perspective than just the many names of various “World Religions”. Religion describes one’s philosophy of life based upon their source of truth. Religion begins at the point of union of the faith-trust-truth triad or what the more conventional religions would call,“god.”

An example of this philosophical truth construct may be found expressed in the Christian Bible by their Messiah-God, Jesus Christ, “Do not store up for yourselves wealth (treasures; figurative or literal) here on earth, where moths and rust destroy, and burglars break in and steal. Instead, store up for yourselves wealth in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and burglars do not break in or steal. For where your wealth is, there your heart will be also.” (the book of Matthew, chapter 6, verses 19-21) Treasures on earth are those things one sees as truth, yet, as such, these things cannot be expressions of faith by the very nature of their visibility. Faith becomes expressed when the treasures are stored in Heaven for Heaven is not seen but received in truth. The nexus of trust is expressed with, “…where your wealth is, there your heart will be also.”

Faith is not the issue, as religion is the practice of one’s faith founded in truth. Faith is tightly bound to how and where one defines their truth. If truth is defined by one’s experience, then the experience need only be changed to alter the truth. If truth were not absolute and indisputable, there would be no basis for trust. A denial of absolute truth has grown. Over the past decades, one can see the erosion of trust that has occurred between our leaders at all levels of government, as well as between individuals throughout the world. We, as a nation, are arriving at this point, no trust, as we no longer recognize absolute truth among ourselves. How much more are the world’s people in danger when America loses its common trust?

Our nation has deteriorated from a founding people with faith, based in a deity as absolute truth, to a people trying to survive by having faith in their fellow man, and finally, to the point where great numbers of Americans base their faith in their individuality, so, no longer trust each other. A way forward is for Americans to remember that our nation was founded by men and women who, like us, were flawed in their character, yet, in faith, reached beyond time, place and strength to realize the existence of absolute truth. They trusted each other, albeit with great societal tension, because their faith led them to undeniable truth, as expressed in the preamble to the Declaration of independence of the United States, 1776:

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed, by their creator with certain, unalienable rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.”

Faith, when held in conjunction with absolute truth, defines trust.

As we have seen in part 1 of this discussion, there seems to be two kinds of truth; that which mankind establishes and that which transcends perceived experience. Mathematically, we have a problem if we allow two truths to define the same point of an idea or fact. If we say that truth is indisputable but demand that it be verifiable, then faith is not exercised; the triad of faith-trust-truth is incomplete.

The position taken by religion, when viewed as a philosophy, is that everything one believes is derived from faith built on trust, which may or may not be found in absolute truth. Modern science, as a religion, takes the realist view that truth is derived only from that which may be observed, while denying or ignoring the faith that underlies any law or theorem. Post-modernism, practiced as a religion, denies the existence of absolute truth, as such, the nexus in trust by faith and truth is destroyed. The end-result for the post-modern thinker is the loss of trust.

Suddenly, faith becomes ubiquitous within our existence. When we drop an object, do we expect it to ever fail to fall toward the earth…but, you say, “Scientifically, I know the object will drop. I have seen it drop every day of my life. The dropping object has been documented for several millennia by others, as well as on the Moon.”? Are you exercising faith or observation? Are you able to observe a dropping object in all the conditions that are possible in the universe? Yet, because of our limited observations, we say that gravity is an absolute, a truth. We, often, make absolute statements without considering the underpinning principle(s) of faith that those statements are built upon.

Why do you close your eyes when you sleep? The general psychological understanding as to why humans close their eyes when they sleep is that there is a “sense” of safety about the act of closing one’s eyes to sleep. Ask any soldier that has served on a battlefront how difficult it was to close their eyes, much less, sleep. Have a conversation with someone who has difficulty breathing regarding how difficult it is for them to close their eyes and sleep. This individual has no assurance they will continue to breathe if they close their eyes. These two examples are of individuals who have little or no “sense” of safety.

Basically, we close our eyes to sleep because we have a “sense” (faith) of safety (trust) that the earth will continue to turn (truth) on its axis appearing to make the sun rise so we may enjoy a new day. Where does this faith come from? We have no guarantee that the earth will continue to turn, yet, we trust that the earth will turn. Where does the trust come from? Perhaps, due to the repeated event, we develop a false trust upon which we can balance our faith and wrongly deduced truth.

Faith is all we have to function with and, in so doing, live religious lives.

When I first heard his name, I said, just as you are going to say, “But I thought    he was a boy?” “So did I,” said Christopher Robin. “Then you can’t call him Winnie?” “I don’t.” “But you said—” “He’s Winnie-ther-Pooh. Don’t you know what ‘ther’ means?” “Ah, yes, now I do,” I said quickly; and I hope you do too, because it is all the explanation you are going to get.  (“Winnie the Pooh” A.A. Milne, 2009, p. 1)

So many times, in life this is all one hears, “…because it is all the explanation you are going to get.” That statement seems to be not very helpful, especially when one is trying to find the truth about something or someone. This statement demands that one exercise faith in whoever said it, that truth is being stated. Maybe faith and truth are drawn from the same idea?

The online dictionary, Dictionary.com, defines faith as 1) confidence or trust in a person or thing; 2) belief that is not based on proof; 3) belief in God or in the doctrines of teachings of religion; 4) belief in anything as a code of ethics; etc.

The same source defines truth as 1) the true or actual state of a matter; 2) conformity with fact or reality; 3) a verified or indisputable fact, proposition, principle, or the like, e.g., mathematical truths; 4) the state or character of being true….8) ideal or fundamental reality apart from and transcending perceived experience. Interestingly this same source describes the origin of the word, ‘truth’, as derived from the Old English word, treowth, which is a cognate of the Old Norse word, tryggth, meaning faith.

I talk to a lot of people in the course of a week. Quite often the word faith comes into our conversations. Almost all the time the understanding by the one who hears the word, faith, is that I am speaking of the Christian religion. Perhaps this is because I am a Chaplain, but I know that other religions work in faith and I suspect that the word, faith, has a significantly broader application.

Using the Christian understanding of faith, the book of Hebrews from the Bible reads, “Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen”(11:1 King James Version); from a Jewish-Christian perspective: “Trusting is being confident of what we hope for, convinced about things we do not see.”(11:1 Complete Jewish Bible) I find it very interesting that the word, faith, is equated with the concept of trust. Apparently, there exists a conceptual relationship between these two words, faith and truth. The nexus for faith and truth is trust.

the emptiness statue

“Emptiness” Original artist : Albert György Bronze Statue located at Lake Geneva, Switzerland

The Holiday Season can be a tough emotional time for those who have experienced loss. A loss doesn’t always mean a loss of a loved one, instead, it could refer to a loss of a life situation or deeply held personal possession; possibly the loss of a dearly held               friendship. What follows are some thoughts from the Harvard Health Letter   regarding strategies for dealing with this season.
Certainly, if you need someone to talk to during this time, please, contact me. If I can’t help you, I probably know someone who can.


POSTED DECEMBER 24, 2011, 9:13 AM , UPDATED DECEMBER 01, 2017, 4:19 PM
Anthony Komaroff, M.D.
Executive Editor, Harvard Health Letter

Family and togetherness are key themes for the holidays. That can make the holidays awfully difficult for people who are grieving the loss of a loved one. My father passed away a month before the holidays. We still shared presents, ate large meals, visited with friends, even sang carols—but it was all pretty subdued.

“If the grief is fresh, holiday cheer can seem like an affront. Celebrations may underscore how alone people feel,” notes my colleague Dr. Michael Miller former editor of Harvard Mental Health Letter.

Although grief is nearly universal, it expresses itself in many different ways, and sometimes resembles major depression. Frequent crying spells, depressed mood, sleep disturbances, and loss of appetite are common during the bereavement process.

Grief is not a tidy, orderly process, and there is no right way to grieve. Every person—and every family—does it differently. This can cause emotions to collide and overlap, especially during the holiday season when the emphasis is on rebirth and renewal.

Here are the strategies recommended in the Harvard Mental Health Letter that may help you or someone you know who is grieving cope with the holidays:

1) Start a new tradition. During a holiday dinner, place a lighted candle on the dinner table, leave an empty chair, or say a few words of remembrance.

2) Change the celebration. Go out to dinner instead of planning an elaborate meal at home. Or schedule a trip with friends.

3) Express your needs. People who are grieving may find it hard to participate in all the festivities or may need to let go of unsatisfying traditions. It’s all right to tell people you just aren’t up to it right now or to change plans at the last minute. I remember that my sister did not join in singing carols, the holidays after our father died.

4) Help someone else. It may also help to volunteer through a charitable or religious organization. Make a donation to a favorite cause in memory of the person who died. In retrospect, I wish I had done this during that sad holiday.

5) Give yourself time. The grieving process doesn’t neatly conclude at the six-month or one-year mark. Depending on the strength of the bond that was broken, grief can be life-long. Nevertheless, grief does usually soften and change over time. With time, the holidays will become easier to handle.

20161023_113955I have had the privilege of visiting many church buildings/structures within the United States as well as overseas during my adult life. I have been in Russian Orthodox, Roman Catholic, and Protestant buildings of worship, as well as being too close to Voodoo “churches” for comfort! Within the walls of many of the Christian structures I have found great comfort, likewise within many of these structures I have felt unfulfilled. I am not sure when the unfulfilled feeling became noticeable to me, perhaps as I crossed the threshold into my 50’s, years that is.

My first memory of worshiping in a church building was that of a one-room frame structure with only a fan for the summer and gas heaters for the winter. Sunday school (Bible Study) was in the same room, as the people broke into four age groups and occupied the corners to study.

There was an upright player piano with a circuit-rider Preacher. The music leader (Worship leaders had not been invented yet) was a hard working laborer who, after 5 days of working 12 hour days and under the power of the Holy Spirit, would sing his heart out. Then he would lie in the bed of his truck because his arthritis hurt so bad the steel bed was a welcome relief as he listened to the preaching through the open doors of the church. His favorite song was The Old Rugged Cross, as became mine at the ripe old age of 5 years.

After I had been in this church building for about two years, a crisis occurred, another denomination built a BRICK church building next to ours and it had an indoor toilet!! We were not sure they were saved! Long after I had moved on to other places and church buildings many committee meetings had occurred at my original church, eventually leading, my ‘starter’ church building to gain in-door plumbing and conditioned air. Yes, God is good.

Through the years and various church buildings I became somewhat of a cross aficionado…. kind of. I discovered little crosses, big crosses, metal crosses, wood crosses, even crosses with Jesus still on them; some were painted, some were stained, some were raw wood. The crosses were put together by various means, such as, glue, nails, or ropes, even welded. Many of these crosses, I noticed, were at the front of church buildings. Some of the crosses were on dangles and cords that people used for bookmarks, necklaces, earrings, and bracelets.

I became impressed with the significance of the cross of Jesus Christ in relation to the core of my relationship with Jesus Christ as my Savior. During Master-Life training, many years ago, we were discussing how to avoid becoming distracted in our prayers and quiet time with the Lord. This is when I realized, 20161120_105708that for me, the need to vision a blood stained, empty cross to orient myself to my purpose in Christ Jesus. The Bible tells me:

Luke 9:23  Then to everyone he (Yeshua) said, “If anyone wants to come after me, let him say ‘No’ to himself, take up his execution-stake daily and keep following me. (Complete Jewish Bible)

Luke 9:23  Then He (Jesus) said to them all, “If anyone wants to come with Me, he must deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow Me. (Holman Christian Standard Bible)

As the years have gone by, it has become apparent that many churches have removed the cross of Jesus Christ from their buildings. I have wondered why?

1 Corinthians 1:18  For the message about the execution-stake is nonsense to those in the process of being destroyed, but to us in the process of being saved it is the power of God. (Complete Jewish Bible)

Leonard Ravenhill, an English Christian Evangelist, has been credited with saying, “One never really knows the height of God’s love, unless he first identifies with the pain of His loss.”  Is it possible that many congregations/ Pastors exclude the cross of Jesus Christ from their sanctuaries because they have not identified with the pain, suffering, and death of Jesus? This type of thinking could derive from the fact that the congregation does not believe that Jesus really died or that his death and resurrection provide a “get out of Hell free card” such that the focus is only on what the believer gets from God, not what the believer brings to the worship of God in his daily life. It is possible that congregations/ Pastors do not want to identify with the pain of Jesus’ death because they would rather focus on the happy, more pleasant concepts of the life of a believer without recognizing that it was the work of the painful cross that yielded a promise of joy in service to God.

Without the cross, there is no need for Jesus Christ. The Holy Spirit calls the believer to the cross of Christ as the believer confronts his failure to live a life of righteousness as reflected in the Decalogue, found in Exodus, chapter 20.

Romans 2:14-16  For when Gentiles, who do not have the law, by nature do what the law requires, they are a law to themselves, even though they do not have the law. They show that the work of the law is written on their hearts, while their conscience also bears witness, and their conflicting thoughts accuse or even excuse them on that day when, according to my gospel, God judges the secrets of men by Christ Jesus.

Galatians 3:24  Wherefore the law was our schoolmaster to bring us unto Christ, that we might be justified by faith.

Luke 14:27  And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple.

Apparently, the cross upon which Jesus Christ died is central to the life of the follower of Jesus Christ, not to be worshiped, but to be seen as the most important tool that God uses to remind the believer of the pain and suffering the Savior of mankind endured in response to the Creator of all things for the sin of mankind. Paul of Tarsus understood this focal point of his faith in the finished work of Jesus Christ for his salvation. Paul knew about enduring suffering in his physical life.

2Timothy 3:10-13  You, however, have followed my teaching, my conduct, my aim in life, my faith, my patience, my love, my steadfastness, my persecutions and sufferings that happened to me at Antioch, at Iconium, and at Lystra—which persecutions I endured; yet from them all the Lord rescued me. Indeed, all who desire to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted, while evil people and impostors will go on from bad to worse, deceiving and being deceived.

Paul finished his writings with the book to the Philippians. In this book, he notes that he keeps pursuing the goal (mark) of the “high calling”.

Philippians 3:14  I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. (King James Version)

Philippians 3:14  I keep pursuing the goal in order to win the prize offered by God’s upward calling in the Messiah Yeshua. (Complete Jewish Bible)

This naturally begs the question of what is the “mark of the prize of the high calling?” The mark is the cross with all the humiliation and pain suffered by our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

Where is that “Old Rugged Cross…where the dearest and best for a world of lost sinners was slain…..it has a wondrous attraction for me. For the dear Lamb of God, left his Glory above
to bear it to dark Calvary…..In the old rugged Cross, stain’d with blood so divine, a wondrous beauty I see, For the dear Lamb of God, left his Glory above to pardon and sanctify me…..To the old rugged Cross, I will ever be true. Its shame and reproach gladly bear. So I’ll cherish the old rugged Cross ‘till my trophies at last I lay down. I will cling to the old rugged Cross and exchange it some day for a crown.” (https://www.google.com/?gws_rd=ssl#q=old+rugged+cross+lyrics)

The lyricist, George Bennard, understood the meaning of the ‘mark’. I wonder the effect that has been wrought upon the surrounding communities as our churches have denied the centrality of the cross of Jesus Christ in the lives of their congregants? If it is missing from your sanctuary, please return the cross of Jesus Christ to your sanctuary of worship. The cross will be found in the hearts of the congregants and Pastors who follow Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior of their lives. You need only bow in submission to the Lord Jesus Christ as your savior and seek your identity in Him. Then, you will want the cross in your primary place of worship to remind you of God’s great mercy that was poured out for you that day as He sent His son, Jesus Christ to the cross that all mankind deserved; thereby offering to all mankind eternal salvation through Jesus Christ.

May God forgive our insensitivity to His cross and restore in our souls the great desire to return to the first works of the believer in Jesus Christ. Amen.

Note: This article was taken from a Navigator on-line publication several years ago. I think it is even more important for all of us as many of our churches have become far removed from the core text of the Bible.

Current research supports Joshua 1:8!

This book of the law shall not depart from your mouth,

but you shall meditate on it day and night,

so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it;

for then you will make your way prosperous,

and then you will have success.

How important is it for a man to spend time each day personally, reflectively reading Scripture? After all, he can listen to any number of teachers on the radio while traveling to and from work and his couple’s small group discuss Scripture passages or at least some religious idea. On Sunday he gets another shot of Scripture. Considering that he has probably been in the church environment for decades, he has probably logged some 800-1000 sermons!

In spite of this, we are painfully aware that when it comes to biblical values and behaviors, churched men do not display a distinctively different lifestyle from their nonreligious neighbors…accept for what they do on Sunday morning.

Discipleship is fundamentally a relationship with Christ. And relationship is the foundation to behavior. We are hardwired to need relationships and yet, most men have no other male friend with whom they feel close and safe enough to relate beyond news, weather, and sports.

In a man’s world, it is even difficult to find the language to talk about relationships. Most of the words that relate to deep friendships come across as feminine or romantic…like the word “intimate”. Most worship songs dealing with our relationship with God are perceived by men as feminine and do not reflect how one man talks to another. Since God and Christ are referred to and portrayed in the biological terms of Father, Son and our Brother, singing “I am so in love with You” creates angst in most men that probably explains why so few sing in our worship services.

Building deep relationships requires three elements regardless if we are relating to our wives, children, friends, or Christ.

Mutual respect

Shared experience

Consistent conversation

Let me highlight the consistent conversation element. Conversation must be two-way and honest. It must involve transparency if it is to deepen the relationship. It must have a high degree of consistency or regularity as well. Reflecting on God’s Word and praying from the platform for our conversation with Christ. Daily time reflecting on Scripture and responding back in prayer are at the core of relationship, real life transformation, and ultimate success. It is what God told Joshua centuries ago and it is still true today (Joshua 1:8).

For more than eight years, the Center for Bible Engagement has researched the spiritual lives of more than 100,000 people from around the world. The overall conclusion: Engaging the Bible most days of the week is critical to grow in the Christian faith.* Their findings include:

If people reflect on the Bible four or more times a week, their “odds” of giving in to temptations such as drinking to excess, viewing pornography, lashing out in anger, gossiping, and lying, significantly decrease.

Drinking to excess: -62%

Viewing pornography: -59%

Having sex outside of marriage: -59%

Gambling: – 45 %

Lashing out in anger: -31%

Receiving, reflecting on, and responding to God’s Word four or more times a week decreases a person’s odds of struggling with issues such as feeling bitter, thinking destructively about self or others, having difficulty forgiving others, and feeling discouraged.

Feeling bitter: -40%

Feeling discourage: -31%

Experiencing loneliness: -30%

Christians engaging in the Scripture most days of the week strongly predicts a more proactive faith.

Giving financially to a church: +416%

Memorizing Scripture: +407%

Sharing their faith with others: +228%

Giving financially to causes other than their church: +218%

These results probably don’t surprise you, but this one will. They found no statistical difference between those that read or listened to the Bible one to three days a week and those who do not at all!

The research also showed that attending church made no difference in a man’s behavior. If we are to see men changed to reflect Christ, to inculcate His values and character, we must challenge them to step up and make a daily appointment with God a life-long, spiritual practice. A relationship with Christ, consistent reflection on Scripture, and godly behavior cannot be separated.

*Scientific Evidence for the Power of 4, Center for Bible Engagement, December 2009/12